Mothers NOW: You are not the only one in the world

Sunday, October 31, 2010

You are not the only one in the world

Dear all,

I don’t know how many of you have been struggling over motherhood, thinking that you are not capable enough, perhaps even feeling that you are probably the worst mother of the group around you...

You look around and see so many kids more behaved than yours, more put together than yours, better listeners than yours... and the list goes on. They are everywhere, in the supermarket, in the parking lot, in the line, in the playground.

How that is even possible? They are all over.

And for your discontentment of course it’s just one more reminder that these other mothers must know something that you don’t, they must do something really right that you are not. And you just walk away in amazement and despair, wondering how they do it, what they do, why they do and why not you? Why am I not capable of doing the same? Why me, why can’t I?

You try so hard again and again. You are exhausted. Sometime it works sometimes it doesn’t.

And then one day you come up with a really clever idea thinking to yourself "now I get it," just to later on find out that it only worked on that first time with your kids, maybe if you are really, lucky two or three times more. But at this point you already have spread the news around the globe to other mothers. Telling them how you just figured out an way of dealing with such and such subject. And these other creatures that are in despair as much as you are, run with praises for such a good idea, carrying with them this new tactic read to apply on the next motherhood battle.

If they only knew that all this new advice of yours comes with a silent disclaimer “Do not try this (more then once) at home unless under an “adult” supervision” (ha ha ha ha)... because it may fail and it will, believe me I have tried before.

If you are related with these frustrations above, know that you are not alone. You are not the only one in the world that is feeling this way.

Know that there is hope for mortals like us that fail all the time but keep trying. There is proofing of Existing Help that can be reached. The secret is just to let to be reached.

2 comments:

Tricia HeiserNovember 23, 2010 at 9:05 AM
I love that you mention that guilt is something that we bring on ourselves! You are so right in that we are going to question our methods of parenting, it is a huge responsibility and cannot be taken lightly. But we have to remind ourselves that we are only human and we are doing the best we can! Let the guilt go!!! It is unhealthy to hold on to. The best we can do is lead by good example.
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glennfuchsnjNovember 24, 2010 at 11:54 AM
I'm not a mother, but I think I understand now why my wife always feels guilty despite doing so much for our children.
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to be inspired...

" Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it"

"Teaching and training are very different learning processes. Teaching deals only with the mind—telling your child what is right. But training deals with the will and seeing to it your child knows what is right. This is your responsibility"

" A solemn responsibility rests upon parents so to train their children that when they go forth into the world, they will do good and not evil to those with whom they associate."

"True parental love restrains, hinders, and eliminates the wrong, unsightly traits of character that come up so naturally. Just as you plant good seeds in a orderly, timely fashion, so I want you to cultivate, water , and exercise the good traits of character in your children. A good gardener tends his garden daily and continues to give it careful attention."

WHAT IS COOKING?

Jasmine rice with mango and celery

This rice is a wonderful side dish to be served with fish.

Ingredients:

1 cup of diced celery

1 tbsp of olive oil

1 cup of Jasmine rice

1 tsp of salt (kosher sea salt)

2 cups of boiling water

1 diced mango

Scallions to embellish

How to prepare:

1. Stew the celery in the olive oil and add Jasmine rice and salt. Add the boiling water and cover the pan half way.

2. When the rice is cooked add the mango and scallions. Turn off the oven top and close the pan completely. Let the rice stand for 10 minutes. And serve immediately.